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Do You Need To Tell a Landlord that You’re Gay

Your first apartment is a pretty exciting milestone in your life. There’s just no other way to say it. Having an apartment means that you’re on your way to some big and bright things, and that’s nothing to sneeze at! However, if you’ve come out proudly as a member of the gay community, you might wonder if you have to tell anyone — like your landlord.

Talking to the person that can legally evict you from their property is a pretty scary thought, especially when you’re young. Here’s a few things that you will want to definitely keep in mind.

Just because you don’t physically own the home doesn’t mean that you don’t have rights. If you’re at all worried about renting opportunities in your area, you will need to look up the tenancy laws for your state. That covers what the landlord can and cannot do. They cannot just evict you because you are openly gay. They can however evict you if you damage the property or do not pay your rent or even have someone living there who is not on the lease as a tenant or an occupant. That’s something that you might forget about, but we can promise you that your landlord will not just forget about it. So you have to make sure that you have your wits about you at every turn.

If you do have a conflict with your landlord, make sure that you keep a log of what happened, the date that it occurred, and also what actions you took to try to resolve the problem. Everything involving your landlord should be in written form as well as just a phone conversation. You need to do this because if you don’t you’ll have problems getting your natural rights as a tenant.

If you are looking at a new apartment, you can have a conversation with the landlord. Let them know that you are a good and clean person who just wants somewhere to live. Money talks more than anything else — if you’re someone that pays their bills, then what you do in your personal life is up to you. There’s no legal requirement to inform your landlord of your life as a gay person. Even if you have guests over to spend the night occasionally, that doesn’t mean that they are now occupants. You have to read your lease and make sure that you know exactly what your fights really are.

Are you ready to look for an apartment right now? The internet is really your best connection unless you live in a very small town. Then you will need to look at the newspaper. Either way, we wish you the best of luck!

Here Are 5 Fantastic Reasons To Give Roses

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The beautiful rose is considered a favorite flower with everyone thanks to it’s lovely aroma and beauty. Sending a bouquet of roses sends a deeper message that words cannot express when you need to show how you feel. It’s no surprise that they are arguably the most well-liked type of flower used in bouquets around the globe. Below are just five excellent reasons why you should send a bouquet of roses.

Show that special individual that you love them. For hundreds of years, the deep red rose has been a symbol of love and passion. The most significant way to show your emotions of love and desire for anyone is through a bouquet of red roses. The powerful fragrance and deep red color of roses represent love, therefore, it is a popular choice for people to send on wedding anniversaries, and particularly on Valentine’s Day. You don’t have to wait for a special occasion to buy roses to let someone know how you feel. Lots of people like to send roses after spending good quality time with someone or sharing a particular moment together.

Express interest and passion for your relationship. Glowing, bright orange roses express a message of desire for someone, however it doesn’t give the powerful message of “I love you.” The fiery petals of orange roses represent enthusiasm with the relationship. They are really perfect for the man or woman who is scared of what those three tiny words represent. [Read more…]

Tips On Breaking Free From A Bad Relationship

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Few people will make it through life without having at least one notably unpleasant, romantic encounter. All couples are not guaranteed to mesh well, but this rarely stops different forms of attraction from developing. In many instances, people can be most attracted to the very individuals who are worst for their lives.

The hardest part of leaving a bad relationship is recognizing the negativity that it creates and determining that this much worse than the pain of separation. Even when people are able to recognize that their partners are not beneficial to their mental, emotional and spiritual well-being, they can still remain very emotionally attached. Physical attraction and even potentially psychic or other connections that are hard to define will often remain.

Emotions are also overwhelming during the leaving process. Love and feelings that can deceptively masquerade as love will often prevent people from leaving bad relationships, even when leaving is clearly best. Thus, it is imperative for people to understand and accept that there are both true emotions and emotions that can be deceiving. What might feel like love today, will likely seem closer to infatuation as the years pass. [Read more…]

How to Cope with Being Excluded after Coming Out

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So, the big day is here. You decided that you’re no longer going to hide your orientation and/or identity from your circle of influence. What’s a circle of influence, you might ask/ Well, that would be your friends, family, coworkers, the people that you volunteer with, the church that you attend, and anywhere else that you frequent often. There are a lot of people that are going to be aware of your “new” status, so planning how to speak out is important.

But you hit a snag as you let the news out: some people take it well, but other people do not at all. They suddenly don’t feel like they should spend much time with you. This hurts. There’s no other way to say it. The pain of being excluded hurts. You start wondering if they were just looking for a reason to get rid of you. The pain can bring in another round of depression which can quickly get out of control.

So we wanted to encourage you. After all, you might feel that coming out was a mistake. If people are going to just exclude you, what’s the point? [Read more…]

Navigating College after Coming Out

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College is such a great opportunity. Not only can you learn new things, but you can work towards building an awesome career. Yes, we know that the college experience isn’t the same as it was several years ago. Goi9ng to school doesn’t mean that you’re necessarily have a job waiting for you after the end of it. Remember when everyone was pressured to go to law school? Well, now there are tons of lawyers, but there aren’t necessarily tons of law jobs for them. Taking on big student loans for a job that may not be there at the end of it is the last thing that you should do.

But what if you want to go to college for the thrill of knowledge? The chance to study something you love around other people that are doing the same thing is great. But you might worry about how your orientation will play a role in college.

We spoke to several gay college students about student life on campus. The good news is that the LGBT issue isn’t really an issue at most schools. Just as we realize that people come from all walks of life, we also realize that there are other orientations at play. There are men who love men, women who love women, people that don’t identify as any particular gender, and everything in between. We believe that the LGBT community should be an open tent for all people, an alternative community that is open and welcome to everyone.

Give yourself a chance to enjoy something great and check out our tips for navigating college after coming out.

1. Be Positive

What type of friend would you like? Chances are good that you want to make friends that are positive, upbeat and open. But if you don’t lean towards thinking about the lighter side of life, you may end up giving yourself a tough time ahead. We know that it’s hard to be happy all of the time, but you do need to take time to appreciate the things you have. We can all think of other people that might not have our circumstances. If you’re struggling with mental health issues, make sure that you get in touch with a professional. We attract people that align with who we are, so if you find that you get a lot of negative people, you’ll need to start adjusting your attitude. [Read more…]